Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr Ray is the CoFounder of The Lighthouse, a practice he founded with his wife, Jean, in 2002. Together they developed a unique and successful model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, offered only at The Lighthouse. For the past 15 years, Dr Ray & Rev Jean have helped thousands of couples and have quickly become experts in the field of marriage and relationships.

Dr Ray is passionate about helping husbands understand the importance of their role in their marriage, teaching them new skills of communication and empowering them to make the changes necessary to create a happy, healthy and revitalized relationship with their spouse. As his wife, Jean, is able to provide guidance for the wives she works with, Dr Ray is able to be an advocate for their husbands, educating them on the developmental challenges that every relationship encounters and helping them navigate those challenges.

Through his work with couples, Dr Ray has also gained experience in helping individual men understand the challenges they face in today’s world. Whether it be a changing career, struggling with an addiction, learning how to face conflict appropriately or dealing with transitional or familial relationships, Dr Ray has provided a guidance appreciated by many of his clients.

Dr Ray grew up in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago and attended Creighton University in Omaha NE, where he received his BA in Psychology. After graduation, he moved back to Chicago and obtained a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. His experience in the field has been extensive encompassing impatient, outpatient, community mental health and residential settings, having worked for facilities such as Kennth Young Center, Forest Hospital, Linden Oaks Hospital, Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital, Alexian Brothers Mental Health Center, and Gateway Foundation.

He received a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University as well as certifications and training in coaching, alcohol & drug counseling, group crisis intervention, biofeedback, hypnotherapy and marital therapy.

We Are Failing Our Teens: The Destructive Combination of Technology, Social Media, and Sexuality

We Are Failing Our Teens: The Destructive Combination of Technology, Social Media, and Sexuality -By Dr Ray Kadkhodaian This past January, in a local suburb of Chicago, a 16-year-old teen committed suicide hours after being confronted by school officials for video...
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Podcasts for Self-Improvement

I find that listening to podcasts is one of the most effective ways for me to learn from other people and experts all while continuing to keep up with my schedule. Whether you are a seasoned-podcast-listener or new to the whole concept, I have put together a few of my favorite podcasts for self-improvement.

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Easing Back to School Anxiety for High School and College Students

Welcome back to school! It’s a perfect time for you to have a fresh start and strong motivation. To make sure worry and anxiety don’t get in the way of all you are about to take on this year, let’s review how to make the most of it.

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I need help, do I seek out a therapist or a life coach?

  I need help, do I seek out a therapist or a life coach?   -By Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian Most people do not know that there are differences between licensed therapists and life coaches, and the type of guidance you will receive is predicated on which one you...
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Perspectives on Couples Synergy from Author, Drew Bekius

Perspectives on Couples Synergy from Author, Drew Bekius   Having been contacted after many years and after having obtained consent to talk about this experience, Jean and I are very proud to have been part of the life of Drew Bekius, author of "The Rise and Fall...
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My Thoughts on the JMT – By Dr Ray Kadkhodaian

John Muir Trail Thoughts – by Ray Kadkhodaian It has taken me this long to process everything that has happened with this journey and the impact it has had on me and it just seems fitting to close out 2016 with my thoughts about our hiking journey this past year. Make...
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Lessons From My Uncle By: Dr Ray Kadkhodaian

Lessons From My Uncle By: Dr Ray Kadkhodaian Since the sudden passing of my uncle two years ago, a day doesn’t go by without me thinking about how admirably he lived his life and how I can incorporate these lessons into my own life.  He was a man who not only left a...
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Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right: Thoughts on Ashley Madison Being Hacked

Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right: Thoughts on Ashley Madison Being Hacked There are no doubts that technology has brought many advances to our world and has sped up our access to an abundance of information as well as connected people who at a time in the past may have...
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10 Easy Ways to Beat Procrastination

When we are facing the roadblock of procrastination, it helps to use different strategies to move us along. We all procrastinate at one time or another. We do this mainly because we dread facing the task at hand. However, there are many other reasons that can play an...
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Tip of the day by Dr Ray

Remember that under #stress, people don't rise to the occasion.. they sink to the level of their highest training. #Change the way you have been "training" your #thoughts & #actions, and ultimately change the way you deal with the challenges that #life throws at...
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