Hello there! First, listen to the audio clip to hear the spoken word called “Comparables”. Do you compare yourself to other people all of the time? If so, it must be exhausting! It is natural to compare yourself to people around you and sometimes it can help you improve yourself. However, always comparing yourself to
Now I know we all get nervous, especially when there is a new situation we are facing. However, there is a difference between those who can handle their nerves and those who have high anxiety. Meaning, they get nervous about something new and just cannot seem to let it go. This impacts how they sleep,
“Sing…. Sing a song….” When you are anxious, it can be tough to belt out a song. It is difficult to sing a favorite tune because the stress on your mind is tangled up with negative thoughts. One helpful way to cope with anxiety is by listening to music. The melody of a song is
You have heard stressed out and overwhelmed people exclaim that they are pulling their hair out. This expression is meant to tell others that we are feeling so overwhelmed or angry that we would do such an act. However, there are circumstances in life that cause certain individuals to actually pull their hair out. Trichotillomania
Avoiding the situations that make you nervous will only make you comfortable for a short period of time. The more times you avoid a situation, the more anxious you become the next time you face it. Why is this? Your anxiety heightens because you have virtually no practice with the situation. You lack practice because
Something I’ve been hearing about in recent sessions is people’s lack of motivation. Clients talk about goals that are important to them, but also express frustration with themselves for not having yet done whatever it is that they’re wanting to do. A good example of this is exercise. There seems to be this idea that
Evaluate your motivation: Why do you want to do the thing? Use that “why” as a motivator to continue working on the thing. Maybe write it on a post-it and put that post-it on your bathroom mirror to remind yourself why doing the thing is worth it. Make a plan: How will you
We’ve all heard the expression that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right. I disagree. I believe that if something is worth doing, and you can’t do it right, it’s worth doing it anyway you can. Sometimes when we’re feeling down or struggling with low motivation, doing a thing right seems overwhelming. Or
Staying at home offers it’s own unique set of challenges. If you are still working from home, your family is now all sharing the house together during your work hours. social interaction through social media is a ever increasing trend in our society, but I think staying at home offers a unique option to spend
In this time of elevated anxiety, your mind might be overwhelmed with negative thoughts which lead to negative outcomes and then pile into mountains of problems that need solving. Your thoughts and problems are valid, yet your anxiety might be impacting your sleep, appetite, and how you approach others. It is important to step back
With everything happening in the world around us, we don’t have to look very far to be worried about something. This Free Virtual Support Group is led by counselors at the Lighthouse and designed to address any anxiety, worries or fears people may have because of COVID-19 and the impact it has had. We have
Many people are transitioning to working from home. Schools are closed. Libraries are closed. Restaurants no longer offer eat-in dining. Everyone is cooped up at home. I wrote a blog about things to do with your kids while at home last week. Now I’d like to address another topic I care deeply about: self-care. The
A recurring theme in my recent sessions has been the challenge of adjusting to changes brought about by the recent social distancing and quarantine caused by COVID-19. People who are used to working outside of the home are adjusting to working at home. Children are adjusting to learning from home and they are missing their
As more of our society currently is quarantined inside of their homes, it can be easy to not stick to a routine. The human mind recognizes and adapts quickly to patterns that are seen in daily activity. I propose that now more than ever, families need to stick to routines. Let’s start with the basics:
C19 Virtual Support Group Everyone is worried and needs support at this difficult time. We have created a virtual support group to talk out any fears you may have and join in unity to give support to one another. $10 Friday, March 20, 2020, at 5-6pm Click Here to Register
Because of the coronavirus, families are facing unexpected long periods of intense family togetherness. Schools are closed. Many parents are working from home or not able to work at all. And it’s nothing like a planned family vacation, because this time you don’t have the distractions of amusement parks, restaurants or museums to visit. It’s
Friday, August 14th, 2020 7:00pm Join Dr. Ray and Jean as we celebrate all the couples who have participated. Each stamp or date completed by #CouplesSynergy will get you an entry in our raffle for the ultimate date night. Plus more giveaways. Space is limited please register early. $40 per couple. Please visit our Facebook
Wednesday May 13th, 2020 6:30pm She sees dead people, well more like talks to them. Sheri is a Medium who has been communicating with loved ones who have passed. Whether you are curious or going though grief you will want to be at this event. You can learn more about her by listening to Couples
Friday, April 17th 2020 7:00pm – 9:30pm BYOB and paint with your partner. In this 2.5 hour workshop you will leave with a painting you will paint together. A great memento of the evening and a unique expression of your relationship. There will be several dates for this event. Please register early to get the
Friday, June 5th 2020 7:00pm – 9:00pm Join us for a unique evening of sound healing and meditation. Bring a pillow, blanket and yoga mat. You might come in stressed but you will float out feeling wonderful after letting go of stress, anxiety and anger. Ask the front desk for registration, or you may also
Elevate your body in this 4-week virtual group. You will learn to recognize the physical symptoms of anxiety and better ways to cope with them. Through group discussion and guided meditation, you will strengthen your mind to crush anxiety and elevate your body to feel good. If you are interested in attending this group, please
Is your child or spouse in therapy? Are you going through a divorce? Are you the parent or spouse of an addict? Do you struggle with helping your children? Recovery is a complex system. Families are a complex system. When these two systems interact, new skills are needed. FST is designed to equip families with
Is your child struggling with the effects of divorce? Children show stress that is different from adults. In this group. each session will teach your child(ren) how to identify these signs and handle them effectively. If you are interested in attending this group, please check out our Facebook page for dates and times: https://www.facebook.com/LighthouseEmotionalWellness/ or
Is your teen or young adult abusing or addicted to gaming? Watching too much T.V.? Depressed or anxious from social media bullying? In this group, each session will address a different topic in online safety and balance. If you are interested in attending this group, please check out our Facebook page for dates and times:
March 13, 2020 RE: Lighthouse Response to COVID-19 To All Our Clients & Their Families: This truly is a challenging time for all of us amidst these concerns regarding the coronavirus. As healthcare providers, we are dedicated more than ever in supporting you and your family through this crisis. This difficult time will bring
Paying attention to how men relate to others has taught me that maleness styles fall into four categories. That is:1.The Boy. 2. The Player. 3. The Confused man and finally 4. The Good man. The boy confuses growing older with growing up. Growing older is mandatory and growing up is a choice. A boy is
Saturday, December 28, 2019 at 11 AM – 12:30 PM Let go of 2019 and Consciously Create 2020 Join us for meditation, sound healing and creating the future through a powerful envisioning workshop Join Jean & Ray Kadkhodaian and Angela Zender in this amazing workshop Cost: $50 Register Today by calling us at 847-253-9769, or
Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. C.A.D.C. N.C.C. Part of the human condition is a desire to be understood. We want the foremost people in our lives to understand what our daily existence is like. The fear of abandonment is less prevalent when someone notices whether we are joyful, fearful, sad or if we are disappointed,
Five Signs Your Child May Need Counseling By: Samantha E. Peritz, LPC Everyone wants to believe that they know their children best, and the truth is you probably do. If your gut is telling you that something isn’t right with your child’s emotional state or behavior, there is nothing wrong with reaching out for help.
Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. C.A.D.C. N.C.C. One of the techniques that I advocate, whenever emotional deregulation is chronic, is the use of meditation. The key signal that meditation is needed is when emotional thinking and emotional decision-making have taken hold. Mindfulness is developing an awareness of your mental processes. When you have developed
Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. N.C.C. C.A.D.C. Clinical Therapist The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center and Footprints to Recovery IS HAPPINESS A MORAL IMPERATIVE ? 19 articles Often in my clinical work I ask a client the following question: “Do you have a moral obligation to be happy?” This opens up an avenue of thought that
The four mistakes men make during an argument with their spouse -By Dr Ray Kadkhodaian After having worked with thousands of couples together, my wife and I have been witnesses to many different relationship patterns that can help build the relationship or destroy a relationship. When working with men, my job is to help them
Divorce Support Group offered by The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center, a counseling center located in Schaumburg, Illinois April 21, 2018 10:30am – 12:00pm Topics covered: Letting go of the hurt & anger Self-empowerment Co-parenting challenges Personal boundaries Dating again Finding life balance $40 per person Call 847-253-9769 to register Hosted by The Lighthouse
Addiction Education and Support Group offered at The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center a counseling center located in Schaumburg, Illinois on Fridays at 6pm Facilitated by Edward Oriole, LCPC, CADC “We seek to identify and address that period of time when abstinence resolve has weakened but actual relapse has not yet occurred” “Relapse is a process.
"The whole of the family is adversely affected by one addict or one addiction within the family."
"Here are the warning signs to look for within the family structure.
"The goals of family synergy model."
"Here are the warning signs to look for within the family structure.
"The goals of family synergy model."
Marriage Counseling: Challenge Your Marriage to New Experiences – Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Learn new tips on how to spice up your relationship with loved ones in your life, with the help of Dr. Ray and Rev. Jean. For more information and to follow Dr. Ray and Rev. Jean, follow them on social media!
What is the first thing you touch in the morning? #StopPhubbingYourSpouse -By Dr Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian What is the first thing you touch in the morning? #StopPhubbingYourSpouse. Before your mind goes to the gutter, and now that we have gotten your attention, we want to address a big issue in relationships today. Although
Marriage Counselors in Schaumburg Illinois: “Should couples see the same therapist?” Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian are the founders of The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center, and the creators of “Couples Synergy” a Marriage Counseling program in Schaumburg Illinois. “Couples Synergy” is a 90 day program designed by married couple Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian to
What Men & Women Really Want for Valentine’s Day By Dr. Ray and Rev. Jean Kadkhodaian What She Wants Little girls dream or romantic gifts and wedding days, and their first real taste of this is Valentine’s Day. Gaudy cards inscribed with the finest 8th grade poetry and priceless costume jewelry has melted the hearts
EFFECTIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION FOR COUPLES Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. C.A.D.C. Did you ever say “I am sorry” and felt a sense of discomfort. This signals that the cliché apology was not quite enough? There is a reason for that feeling of dissatisfaction. The reason is that our logical brain is telling us that something
THE EFFECTIVENESS OF FAMILY COUNSELING Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. C.A.D.C. N.C.C. When I was a teenager I read “Anna Karenina” by Leo Tolstoy. Tolstoy wrote with a profound appreciation of the human condition. His insight is demonstrated with the first line of “Anna Karenina”; He posits that “All happy families are alike. Each unhappy family
We Are Failing Our Teens: The Destructive Combination of Technology, Social Media, and Sexuality -By Dr Ray Kadkhodaian This past January, in a local suburb of Chicago, a 16-year-old teen committed suicide hours after being confronted by school officials for video recording a sexual encounter he had with another peer. He was an honor roll
"When the certainty of positive intention is firmly in place the level of trust for the couple increases and the chance for miscommunication decreases."
I need help, do I seek out a therapist or a life coach? -By Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian Most people do not know that there are differences between licensed therapists and life coaches, and the type of guidance you will receive is predicated on which one you choose. It is not a surprise that
<h4>The Origin of Behavior</h4> Behavior was first studied by evolutionists ages ago. According to them, all animal and human behaviors have distinct evolutionary roots. They believe that their characteristics are passed down to them by their most primitive ancestors. In addition to their claim, they say that all behaviors come from one single origin and
Lunch Date at Kuma’s Corner – Schaumburg HEAVY – this must be the best word to describe this restaurant in its entirety. Everything is ridiculously heavy in this gourmet burger bar. Burgers, beers, and bands are roaring like their restaurant logo. The big screen projecting horror movies complement with the atmosphere while we
Perspectives on Couples Synergy from Author, Drew Bekius Having been contacted after many years and after having obtained consent to talk about this experience, Jean and I are very proud to have been part of the life of Drew Bekius, author of “The Rise and Fall of Faith”, are extremely honored to have been
About an hour north of the Illinois-Wisconsin border, you will find some great hiking trails and a hidden gem of a restaurant called, the Holi Cannoli. Great day date idea!
Punch Bowl Social Review If you ever want to unwind and go out for some beer, good food and recreation, you’ve got to try this fancy dining place in Schaumburg. Quick bite after a late night of working, Jean and I decided to stop in at Punch Bowl Social in Schaumburg. This restaurant has a
The 5 R’s for Coping with Anxiety Kate Rhodes MS, LPC, NCC Anxiety, more often than not, has the ability to sneak up on us in the most inconvenient ways. A little anxiety is useful in times when we need a good push; it lets us know we are alive, trying new things and
Creating a Coping Skills Toolbox Kate Rhodes MS, LPC, NCC Coping skills are techniques used to deal with stress and anxiety. These can be positive or negative in nature. The ability to contrive positive, good coping skills and begin implementing them into your daily life takes effort and practice. There are countless lists
Do not wait! Having a child with depressive symptoms does not make you a bad or negligent parent. It may not suggest that you had anything to do with the child's pain. Good parenting simply demands that you get the child professional help and support the child in their recovery.
John Muir Trail Thoughts – by Ray Kadkhodaian It has taken me this long to process everything that has happened with this journey and the impact it has had on me and it just seems fitting to close out 2016 with my thoughts about our hiking journey this past year. Make no doubt about it;
An Effective Skill to Immediately Release Tension By Joy Walsh, LCSW ”Your personal energy is your most important asset! Be careful of it! Spend it wisely!” ~ Dr. Edmund Jacobson, You Must Relax How stressed are you right now? Even if you answered “not at all” to this question, you might be surprised to find
Binge-drinking and the Danger to Adolescents -by Edward L. Oriole, LCPC N.C.C. Due to the long term effects of alcohol abuse, binge drinking has become a major public health issue. What is binge drinking? Social, medical and emotional health media categorize “binge- drinking” as a pejorative term. It includes individuals who engage in heavy, episodic
How Do I Know If I am Depressed? By Edward L. Oriole L.C.P.C. N.C.C. In the course of everyday life. We often ask ourselves when does “feeling blue” rise to the level of depression. I have often observed this in my practice when individuals don’t recognize when “feeling blue” becomes mild, moderate or even
“Quiet” “The Power of Introverts…” by Susan Cain Every so often an important, but readable book, is published. One that meets a societal need, is jargon free and makes a compelling argument. Author Susan Cain’s book “Quiet. The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” is a success in all three areas.
Have You Ever? Have you ever felt beautiful? Have you ever felt ugly? Have you ever lost? Have you ever won? Have you ever not had enough money? Have you ever had money burning a hole in your pocket? Have you ever felt fat? Have you ever felt thin? Have you ever been with someone
Lessons From My Uncle By: Dr Ray Kadkhodaian Since the sudden passing of my uncle two years ago, a day doesn’t go by without me thinking about how admirably he lived his life and how I can incorporate these lessons into my own life. He was a man who not only left a positive impact