Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray is a CoFounder of The Lighthouse, a practice he founded with his wife, Jean, in 2002. Together they developed a unique and successful model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, offered only at The Lighthouse. For the nearly 20 years, Dr. Ray &  Jean have helped thousands of couples and have quickly become experts in the field of marriage and relationships.

 

Dr. Ray is passionate about helping husbands understand the importance of their role in their marriage, teaching them new skills of communication and empowering them to make the changes necessary to create a happy, healthy and revitalized relationship with their spouse. As his wife, Jean, is able to provide guidance for the wives she works with, Dr. Ray is able to be an advocate for their husbands, educating them on the developmental challenges that every relationship encounters and helping them navigate those challenges.

 

Through his work with couples, Dr. Ray has also gained experience in helping individual men understand the challenges they face in today’s world. Whether it be a changing career, struggling with an addiction, learning how to face conflict appropriately or dealing with transitional or familial relationships, Dr. Ray has provided a guidance appreciated by many of his clients.

 

Dr. Ray grew up in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago and attended Creighton University in Omaha NE, where he received his BA in Psychology. After graduation, he moved back to Chicago and obtained a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. His experience in the field has been extensive encompassing impatient, outpatient, community mental health and residential settings, having worked for facilities such as Kennth Young Center, Forest Hospital, Linden Oaks Hospital, Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital, Alexian Brothers Mental Health Center, and Gateway Foundation.

 

He received a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University as well as certifications and training in coaching, alcohol & drug counseling, group crisis intervention, biofeedback, hypnotherapy and marital therapy.

Marriage Counseling vs. Couples Therapy

Even the most tight-knit and loving couples may need help with conflict resolution or other issues. Over the course of a marriage, especially as the honeymoon phase ends, sexual issues, previous fights, substance abuse, and parenting issues can all rear their heads,...

The Dangers of Repressed Emotions

Repression and Suppression are words that often get mixed up. Suppression is a defense mechanism that we use voluntarily to hide what we are feeling. Repression is the “unconscious blocking of unpleasant emotions, impulses, memories, and thoughts from your unconscious...

Mentally Well with Animals

You come home after a long stressful day and sit on the couch. Zoning out before you suddenly feel the softness of your dog’s head on your lap looking up at you. Your dog understands you’re feeling off today and has taken time to try and comfort you. You look down and...

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a mindfulness-based behavior therapy. In contrast to Western-based psychological theory, ACT does not have symptom reduction as a goal. This is based on the view that an on-going attempt to eliminate symptoms causes...

How IFS Can Help You

The Internal Family Systems, or IFS model operates on the principal that internally, we have an ecology of relatively discrete minds, which interact with our healthy self, and take on roles to keep us safe and functioning. Find out how IFS can help you. The 3 common...

Dealing with Resentment

The word “resentment” is defined as “bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” How often do we find ourselves dealing with resentment? Resentment can happen with any relationship; friends, family, co-workers, but the pertinent question is: how do we deal...

Recognizing your body’s feelings?

Can you recognize what your body feels? Did you ever feel so anxious that you felt sick to your stomach? Do you ever feel so angry that you felt like your head was literally going to explode? Have you felt so joyful that you got butterflies in your stomach? Can you...

Counseling Can Lead to Discovery

During a recent session, a client said to me, “Wow, you just uncovered that”. The client had an epiphany and saw something from a different perspective. Counseling can lead to discovery. I remind my clients that they are responsible for the work they do on healing and...

Taking longer breaks from the Media?

Taking longer breaks from the Media? Society always wants us to be in the loop of what’s going on with the world. Is there such thing as a balance between checking our phones and the news? Are we trained to find the "golden middle"? The last few years have not been...

EMDR can help with old traumas.

Are old traumas tainting moments of joy? If you answered yes to that question, EMDR can help! EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR is an 8-phase, 3-prong therapeutic approach that “rewires” our brain. It can relieve the symptoms of past...

Other Services

Individual Counseling

Individual Counseling

Our counselors help patients to overcome personal obstacles, build self-confidence, and develop meaningful relationships.
Marriage Counseling

Couples & Marriage Counseling

The Couples Synergy program by Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian is designed to revitalize marriages and bring back passion and excitement to relationships.

Family Counseling

Family Counseling

Our Family Synergy Therapy model addresses dysfunctional family dynamics to break unhealthy patterns and create a peaceful environment at home.

Child Counseling

Child Counseling

Our child therapists use different techniques to help children open up about how they feel and navigate the challenges in their lives.

EMDR Therapy

EMDR Therapy

Our therapists use the EMDR model to help clients explore, process, and heal traumatic memories through their bodies' natural abilities.

Depression Treatment

Depression Treatment

Our treatment program provides patients with the tools, compassion, and support to navigate their journey fighting depression.

Anxiety Treatment

Anxiety Treatment

Our counselors treat anxiety by integrating traditional therapy with complementary practices to the mind, body, and spirit.
PTSD & Trauma Therapy

PTSD & Trauma Therapy

Our mission is to guide patients with trauma towards healing and help them regain control of their lives to achieve lasting wellness.