Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray is a CoFounder of The Lighthouse, a practice he founded with his wife, Jean, in 2002. Together they developed a unique and successful model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, offered only at The Lighthouse. For the nearly 20 years, Dr. Ray &  Jean have helped thousands of couples and have quickly become experts in the field of marriage and relationships.

Dr. Ray is passionate about helping husbands understand the importance of their role in their marriage, teaching them new skills of communication and empowering them to make the changes necessary to create a happy, healthy and revitalized relationship with their spouse. As his wife, Jean, is able to provide guidance for the wives she works with, Dr. Ray is able to be an advocate for their husbands, educating them on the developmental challenges that every relationship encounters and helping them navigate those challenges.

Through his work with couples, Dr. Ray has also gained experience in helping individual men understand the challenges they face in today’s world. Whether it be a changing career, struggling with an addiction, learning how to face conflict appropriately or dealing with transitional or familial relationships, Dr. Ray has provided a guidance appreciated by many of his clients.

Dr. Ray grew up in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago and attended Creighton University in Omaha NE, where he received his BA in Psychology. After graduation, he moved back to Chicago and obtained a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. His experience in the field has been extensive encompassing impatient, outpatient, community mental health and residential settings, having worked for facilities such as Kennth Young Center, Forest Hospital, Linden Oaks Hospital, Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital, Alexian Brothers Mental Health Center, and Gateway Foundation.

He received a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University as well as certifications and training in coaching, alcohol & drug counseling, group crisis intervention, biofeedback, hypnotherapy and marital therapy.

Battling Insomnia: A Short Guide to Getting Better Sleep

We all can easily say that at one point in our lives we had trouble getting an appropriate amount of sleep throughout the week. This is due to us waking up multiple times throughout the night and having difficulty falling back to sleep for a long period of time. We...

Who’s Responsible for Success in Therapy?

Everyone carries assumptions about what they will get out of coming to therapy. Some clients are having such a hard time in their life that just signing up for that first session, getting out of the house, driving to the office and plopping down on the coach feels...

What does it mean to do therapy from the top-down or from the bottom-up?

When a person goes into therapy they are generally looking to feel better, or have an outlet. As a therapist I am always assessing my clients, “Do they need a higher level of care”, “Am I the best fit for the client”, “What approach is going to work for my clients”....

Fight, Flight, and Freeze

Most of us have heard of fight, flight, or freeze. These are common responses that humans, and animals have when faced with various situations. Thinking about trauma, and how that impacts us we think about one more term “Fawn”. This term is coined by Pete Walker, a...

Empathy is Vital to a Relationship

Part of the human condition is a desire to be understood.  We want the foremost people in our lives to understand what our daily existence is like.  The fear of abandonment is less prevalent when someone notices whether we are joyful, fearful, sad or if we are...

Emotional Regulation How to Tame the Chaos in Yourself

“I can’t control my emotions”, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me!” These are two common phrases that many people have said before. I have seen many children, teens and adults who are unable to display emotional regulation. What is emotional regulation? Emotional...

Why Being a Bit Selfish is Not a Bad Thing

Think about a time you were going to go out and hangout with friends. You are getting ready, getting dressed, throw some make up on, and so on, but as you are doing this, you just are feeling “meh” at the moment. You had a long week at work, maybe had a rough day, and...

Gender vs Sexual Orientation

Gender and sexual orientation are frequently talked about together. Heck, they’re even in the same acronym! Both are used to describe our identity as humans, and to describe how we navigate the world. Clearly there’s a difference, though, right? Otherwise, there...

What Keeps You Going?

I think we can all agree that depression is draining. A common thought to getting out of the pit of depression is - where do I even start? When a person is struggling with depression things that were once important and things that once made them happy gives them no...

Suicide

How to talk about suicide During my work as a crisis counselor in a community session, a common question that would come up a lot is how to talk about suicide to a person who may be experiencing suicidal ideation or might be planning an attempt. I noticed that the...

Our Staff

Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Jean Kadkhodaian

Jean Kadkhodaian

 Eddie Oriole, LCPC, NCC, CADC

Eddie Oriole, LCPC, NCC, CADC

Bethany Juran, LPC

Bethany Juran, LPC

Angela Zender

Angela Zender

April Moritz, LPC

April Moritz, LPC

David Klemm, LPC

David Klemm, LPC

Kristin Garrigan

Kristin Garrigan

Arbin Memisi

Arbin Memisi

TJ Jordan

TJ Jordan

Claudia Carone

Claudia Carone

Certified Therapy Dog

Jasmine

Jasmine

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Marriage Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Couples & Marriage Counseling: We began our practice working with couples. Today it is the cornerstone of our practice.

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Couples Coaching Arlington Heights IL

Couples Synergy: The couples coaching program designed by Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian, designed to revitalize marriages and bring back passion and excitement again in your relationship!

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Mental Health Counselor Arlington Heights IL

Individual Counselor:  If you’re depressed or anxious about your situation in life, how are you coping with it?

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Family Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Family Counseling: Together as a team we create healthy boundaries and powerful interactions within the family system.

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Child Therapist Arlington Heights IL

Child Counseling: Our child therapists use different techniques to help children to explore the issues that are causing problems in their lives.