Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray is a CoFounder of The Lighthouse, a practice he founded with his wife, Jean, in 2002. Together they developed a unique and successful model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, offered only at The Lighthouse. For the nearly 20 years, Dr. Ray &  Jean have helped thousands of couples and have quickly become experts in the field of marriage and relationships.

Dr. Ray is passionate about helping husbands understand the importance of their role in their marriage, teaching them new skills of communication and empowering them to make the changes necessary to create a happy, healthy and revitalized relationship with their spouse. As his wife, Jean, is able to provide guidance for the wives she works with, Dr. Ray is able to be an advocate for their husbands, educating them on the developmental challenges that every relationship encounters and helping them navigate those challenges.

Through his work with couples, Dr. Ray has also gained experience in helping individual men understand the challenges they face in today’s world. Whether it be a changing career, struggling with an addiction, learning how to face conflict appropriately or dealing with transitional or familial relationships, Dr. Ray has provided a guidance appreciated by many of his clients.

Dr. Ray grew up in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago and attended Creighton University in Omaha NE, where he received his BA in Psychology. After graduation, he moved back to Chicago and obtained a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. His experience in the field has been extensive encompassing impatient, outpatient, community mental health and residential settings, having worked for facilities such as Kennth Young Center, Forest Hospital, Linden Oaks Hospital, Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital, Alexian Brothers Mental Health Center, and Gateway Foundation.

He received a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University as well as certifications and training in coaching, alcohol & drug counseling, group crisis intervention, biofeedback, hypnotherapy and marital therapy.

Suicide

How to talk about suicide During my work as a crisis counselor in a community session, a common question that would come up a lot is how to talk about suicide to a person who may be experiencing suicidal ideation or might be planning an attempt. I noticed that the...

Honoring the Process of Change

Change is hard, let me just be honest. Change takes time, energy, devotion, and a lot of compassion towards yourself. As a therapist a common denominator that I see in a person being hindered from their change is having all or nothing thinking, black or white, right...

How do you Process Information?

Did you know that there are different styles of processing information? I’m not talking about the manner in which we communicate our thoughts, rather the way we integrate new information and turn it into thoughts that we can share with others if we choose. So, what...

Foundations to Understanding EMDR Part 2

Why EMDR? Talk therapy is great, and has been proven to help many people.  However, when we experience any type of trauma, or have a negative belief that is deeply engraved - those traumas and beliefs are stored in the right brain, and we talk in the left brain.  EMDR...

External vs Internal Motivation in Sustaining Recovery

The human capacity to search for happiness seems endless. My experience, within the counseling field, demonstrates that this endless search is often external. To seek happiness, fulfillment or peace through unrealistic dreams, addictions or even other people, is a...

Foundations to Understanding EMDR

There are three things I need you to understand prior to explaining EMDR in depth. I want to explain neuroplasticity, how memories are stored, and lastly explaining core beliefs. Donald Hebb, a neuropsychologist said “Neurons that fire together wire together”.  This...

Some Thoughts on the Science on Relationships

"Follow your dream, but take your brain along with you." That short nugget of wisdom was by Alfred Adler written in the 1920s. I believe that what Adler meant was that we should seek to investigate the scientific underpinnings within the field of relationships. A...

Binge-Drinking and the Danger to Adolescents

Due to the long term effects of alcohol abuse, binge drinking has become a major public health issue. What is binge drinking? Social, medical and emotional health media categorize "binge- drinking" as a pejorative term. It includes individuals who engage in heavy,...

Insecure Attachment & Addiction

My work with addictions often discovers that the origin of the addictive behavior lies in an insecure attachment, during childhood, to the primary caregiver. In treatment, after the withdrawal stabilizes, myself and the addict examine the relationship with the primary...

30 Days of Meditation for Healing from COVID-19

Join Dr Ray & Jean in 30 days of meditation for healing from this COVID-19 pandemic and all the chaos it has caused our world. This post will be updated each day with the most recent meditation:

Our Staff

Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Jean Kadkhodaian

Jean Kadkhodaian

 Eddie Oriole, LCPC, NCC, CADC

Eddie Oriole, LCPC, NCC, CADC

Bethany Juran, LPC

Bethany Juran, LPC

Angela Zender

Angela Zender

April Moritz, LPC

April Moritz, LPC

David Klemm, LPC

David Klemm, LPC

Kristin Garrigan

Kristin Garrigan

Arbin Memisi

Arbin Memisi

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Jasmine

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Marriage Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Couples & Marriage Counseling: We began our practice working with couples. Today it is the cornerstone of our practice.

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Couples Coaching Arlington Heights IL

Couples Synergy: The couples coaching program designed by Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian, designed to revitalize marriages and bring back passion and excitement again in your relationship!

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Mental Health Counselor Arlington Heights IL

Individual Counselor:  If you’re depressed or anxious about your situation in life, how are you coping with it?

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Family Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Family Counseling: Together as a team we create healthy boundaries and powerful interactions within the family system.

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Child Therapist Arlington Heights IL

Child Counseling: Our child therapists use different techniques to help children to explore the issues that are causing problems in their lives.