Dr. Ray Kadkhodaian

Dr. Ray is a CoFounder of The Lighthouse, a practice he founded with his wife, Jean, in 2002. Together they developed a unique and successful model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, offered only at The Lighthouse. For the nearly 20 years, Dr. Ray &  Jean have helped thousands of couples and have quickly become experts in the field of marriage and relationships.

Dr. Ray is passionate about helping husbands understand the importance of their role in their marriage, teaching them new skills of communication and empowering them to make the changes necessary to create a happy, healthy and revitalized relationship with their spouse. As his wife, Jean, is able to provide guidance for the wives she works with, Dr. Ray is able to be an advocate for their husbands, educating them on the developmental challenges that every relationship encounters and helping them navigate those challenges.

Through his work with couples, Dr. Ray has also gained experience in helping individual men understand the challenges they face in today’s world. Whether it be a changing career, struggling with an addiction, learning how to face conflict appropriately or dealing with transitional or familial relationships, Dr. Ray has provided a guidance appreciated by many of his clients.

Dr. Ray grew up in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago and attended Creighton University in Omaha NE, where he received his BA in Psychology. After graduation, he moved back to Chicago and obtained a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. His experience in the field has been extensive encompassing impatient, outpatient, community mental health and residential settings, having worked for facilities such as Kennth Young Center, Forest Hospital, Linden Oaks Hospital, Alexian Brothers Behavioral Health Hospital, Alexian Brothers Mental Health Center, and Gateway Foundation.

He received a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University as well as certifications and training in coaching, alcohol & drug counseling, group crisis intervention, biofeedback, hypnotherapy and marital therapy.

Blue Light Toxicity

So imagine this… You have been working on a computer all day and you feel yourself getting pretty tired. You see the clock and it's close to midnight. You hop into bed immediately, but all of a sudden, you don’t fall asleep. You feel tired, but somehow still awake....

Your Personal Bill of Rights! Pt.1

So, as we all know, all U.S citizens have a bill of rights mandated by the U.S constitution that gives us power to pursue our own path in life and protects us from unreasonable causes, but what if I told you outside the constitution we have our own personal bill of...

Is Happiness a Moral Imperative?

Often in my clinical work I ask a client the following question: "Do you have a moral obligation to be happy?" This opens up an avenue of thought that often neglected. My goal is to lead the client to the conclusion the seeking happiness is a moral imperative. To...

Conflict & Empathy

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” This is one of my favorite sayings. As humans, when we get into a disagreement or conflict with another person, our instinct and deepest need is to feel heard and understood. Therefore, our initial words are centered...

How Stimulus Control can Help Improve your Sleeping

Imagine this… its late at night, you are feeling tired, so you go to bed. You put on your PJ’s, hop in bed, and then all of a sudden you turn on the TV while you lay in bed. Then you start checking your phone to see the latest Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter updates....

Battling Insomnia: A Short Guide to Getting Better Sleep

We all can easily say that at one point in our lives we had trouble getting an appropriate amount of sleep throughout the week. This is due to us waking up multiple times throughout the night and having difficulty falling back to sleep for a long period of time. We...

What does it mean to do therapy from the top-down or from the bottom-up?

When a person goes into therapy they are generally looking to feel better, or have an outlet. As a therapist I am always assessing my clients, “Do they need a higher level of care”, “Am I the best fit for the client”, “What approach is going to work for my clients”....

Empathy is Vital to a Relationship

Part of the human condition is a desire to be understood.  We want the foremost people in our lives to understand what our daily existence is like.  The fear of abandonment is less prevalent when someone notices whether we are joyful, fearful, sad or if we are...

Emotional Regulation How to Tame the Chaos in Yourself

“I can’t control my emotions”, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me!” These are two common phrases that many people have said before. I have seen many children, teens and adults who are unable to display emotional regulation. What is emotional regulation? Emotional...

Why Being a Bit Selfish is Not a Bad Thing

Think about a time you were going to go out and hangout with friends. You are getting ready, getting dressed, throw some make up on, and so on, but as you are doing this, you just are feeling “meh” at the moment. You had a long week at work, maybe had a rough day, and...
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Marriage Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Couples & Marriage Counseling: We began our practice working with couples. Today it is the cornerstone of our practice.

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Couples Coaching Arlington Heights IL

Couples Synergy: The couples coaching program designed by Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian, designed to revitalize marriages and bring back passion and excitement again in your relationship!

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Mental Health Counselor Arlington Heights IL

Individual Counselor / Personal Coach:  If you’re depressed or anxious about your situation in life, how are you coping with it?

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Family Counseling Arlington Heights IL

Family Counseling: Together as a team we create healthy boundaries and powerful interactions within the family system.

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Child Therapist Arlington Heights IL

Child Counseling: Our child therapists use different techniques to help children to explore the issues that are causing problems in their lives.