Edward Oriole

Edward Oriole Counseling Schaumburg IL

Marriage Counseling vs. Couples Therapy

Even the most tight-knit and loving couples may need help with conflict resolution or other issues. Over the course of a marriage, especially as the honeymoon phase ends, sexual issues, previous fights, substance abuse, and parenting issues can all rear their heads,...

The Dangers of Repressed Emotions

Repression and Suppression are words that often get mixed up. Suppression is a defense mechanism that we use voluntarily to hide what we are feeling. Repression is the “unconscious blocking of unpleasant emotions, impulses, memories, and thoughts from your unconscious...

Mentally Well with Animals

You come home after a long stressful day and sit on the couch. Zoning out before you suddenly feel the softness of your dog’s head on your lap looking up at you. Your dog understands you’re feeling off today and has taken time to try and comfort you. You look down and...

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a mindfulness-based behavior therapy. In contrast to Western-based psychological theory, ACT does not have symptom reduction as a goal. This is based on the view that an on-going attempt to eliminate symptoms causes...

How IFS Can Help You

The Internal Family Systems, or IFS model operates on the principal that internally, we have an ecology of relatively discrete minds, which interact with our healthy self, and take on roles to keep us safe and functioning. Find out how IFS can help you. The 3 common...

Dealing with Resentment

The word “resentment” is defined as “bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” How often do we find ourselves dealing with resentment? Resentment can happen with any relationship; friends, family, co-workers, but the pertinent question is: how do we deal...

Recognizing your body’s feelings?

Can you recognize what your body feels? Did you ever feel so anxious that you felt sick to your stomach? Do you ever feel so angry that you felt like your head was literally going to explode? Have you felt so joyful that you got butterflies in your stomach? Can you...

Counseling Can Lead to Discovery

During a recent session, a client said to me, “Wow, you just uncovered that”. The client had an epiphany and saw something from a different perspective. Counseling can lead to discovery. I remind my clients that they are responsible for the work they do on healing and...

Taking longer breaks from the Media?

Taking longer breaks from the Media? Society always wants us to be in the loop of what’s going on with the world. Is there such thing as a balance between checking our phones and the news? Are we trained to find the "golden middle"? The last few years have not been...

EMDR can help with old traumas.

Are old traumas tainting moments of joy? If you answered yes to that question, EMDR can help! EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR is an 8-phase, 3-prong therapeutic approach that “rewires” our brain. It can relieve the symptoms of past...

Edward L. Oriole is a nationally certified Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and a Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor. Edward is an associate on the staff at The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center. Eddie’s philosophy regarding his clinical work is:

The way that we think significantly affects the way that we behave. The way that we behave significantly affects our interactions with others.

Eddie can help you determine if the patterns in your personal and work life are useful or counter-productive. For example if your thinking patterns often result in anxiety, depression, relationship conflicts or fears, Eddie can help you identify the thinking errors. This realization leads to guidance toward a change in thinking habits and a change in behavior.

Eddie grew up on the west side of Chicago, IL. He attended Holy Cross High School. Eddie graduated early and enlisted in the United States Air Force at age seventeen. After six years of active and reserve duty Eddie continued to protect and serve by joining the Chicago Police Department. He served fourteen years in uniform and another fourteen years as a negotiator in the Hostage, Barricade and Terrorist unit. Eddie’s first exposure to the field of psychology was during the training as a hostage negotiator. This prompted a two-fold question for Eddie: Where does behavioral dysfunction originate? And What type of treatment offers the best chance for symptom remediation?

The goal, for Eddie, became understanding the link between thinking patterns and behavior. Moreover Eddie was driven to understand the connection of genetic factors and environmental factors to the resultant behavior. Eddie learned to look beyond the behavior towards the thinking patterns. Thinking patterns that clearly led to behaviors that were contrary to the criminal’s best interests. Successful officers, Eddie learned, could tolerate uncertainty and avoid premature judgments. He learned that patient, non-judgmental responses often led to preservation of life success in hostage, barricade and terrorist negotiations.

Eddie formalized his lifelong devotion to an understanding the cause and effect of human behavior by enrolling and graduating at Northwestern University with a psychology major. This was followed by graduate school also at Northwestern University with a Master of Arts degree in counseling psychology. The initial focus was directed toward those who served in either the military of police departments. Eddie is trained in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy which seeks to uncouple the cause of disruptive emotional consequences from the illogical belief systems. When the illogical beliefs are substituted with logical beliefs the emotional consequences change also.

Eddie’s clinical experience includes clinical work with children, adolescents and adults with behavioral or mood disorders in both in-patient and residential settings. Training, experience and devotion have resulted in a strong counselor identity. This was expanded by Eddie’s achievement of his CADC or Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor license.

In Eddie’s own words… “ The experience and mentoring that I receive at The Lighthouse has expanded my competency to include: Youngsters and adolescents in need of purpose and direction as well as individuals locked in the cycle of addictions. It also includes families searching for that correct balance with their children and couple’s therapy under the Couples Synergy model.” Eddie has developed a a rich history by serving in the armed forces, twenty-eight years as a police officer and being a single parent. His education and real life experience give Eddie a strong clinical identity.

 

FAVORITE QUOTES

“Endure and persist and the bad will turn to your good.” Marcus Aurelius

“Important discoveries about our interior world are made by unusual individuals capable of pushing themselves to extremes while tolerating harsh conditions that ordinary individuals could not endure.” EO

“If you wish to stop being ordinary simply stop being easy on yourself.” Fredrich Nietzsche

“Transformation is the perilous journey of the hero. It bears the archetypal hallmarks of initial isolation and the eventual return to psychic health. The hero, having undergone this ordeal , emerges as a man-transformed, possessed of great wisdom and power to bestow benefits upon his fellow man.: Carl G. Jung

Finally Sigmund Freud posited that the quality of our lives is largely determined by two things: What kind of work that we do and who we love.

Other Services

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Couples Coaching

The Couples Synergy program by Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian is designed to revitalize marriages and bring back passion and excitement again in relationships.

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Child Therapy

Our child therapists use different techniques to help children open up about how they feel and navigate the challenges in their lives.

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EMDR Therapy

Our therapists use the EMDR therapeutic model to help clients explore, process, and heal traumatic memories through their bodies' natural abilities.